Couples Therapy
In love, we assume that we and our partners exist in the same location in time and space. Most of the hurt we experience are exchanges we consider to be violations for any reasonable person living in the same relationship we are.
How can they humiliate us like that? Why would they disregard our feelings in situation X? Why can’t they hear us despite the repeated arguments? The answer perhaps lies in—they operate from a different emotional location that uses a different dialect altogether—one informed by their own history.
From an early age, we learned to speak our native tongue without any active effort on our part. The same can be said of an emotional language around relationships that we unconsciously learned from our environment. Over time, we assume this dialect to be universally spoken without ever questioning the origins or contexts of how they were developed, yet govern our very ideas and expectations of love.
In my work with couples, we will approach your dynamic with openness and active curiosity, pinpoint the emotional geography of each interaction and make way for new discoveries over familiar terrain. This will require both active learning and teaching for all parties involved with your emotions at the center. Perhaps we will unlearn a dead language, acknowledge how it came to be, and make room for “finding” each other again.
Improve communication
Deepen and broaden intimacy
Understand your parts as individuals within a unit
Learn how to fight productively – (Yes, that is possible!)
Repair entrenched relational patterns